The Art of Disappearing

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When they say Don’t I know you?
say no.

When they invite you to the party
remember what parties are like
before answering.
Someone telling you in a loud voice
they once wrote a poem.
Greasy sausage balls on a paper plate.
Then reply.

If they say We should get together
say why?

It’s not that you don’t love them anymore.
You’re trying to remember something
too important to forget.
Trees. The monastery bell at twilight.
Tell them you have a new project.
It will never be finished.

When someone recognizes you in a grocery store
nod briefly and become a cabbage.
When someone you haven’t seen in ten years
appears at the door,
don’t start singing him all your new songs.
You will never catch up.

Walk around feeling like a leaf.
Know you could tumble any second.
Then decide what to do with your time.

– Naomi Shihab Nye

 

Mid-Winter

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If you’re going to live a deep life, the ultimate original commitment is, ‘I’m going to commit to discipline in the sense of things I am going to do on a regular basis, because they matter, even if I don’t feel like it.’ And that is the biggest binary zero-to-one flip that happens in crafting a life.
— Cal Newport

…from Cal’s excellent conversation with Tim Ferriss.

This week is my son’s mid-winter school break so I am enjoying being home from work and hanging with him. It is actually snowing at the moment but the last few weeks we’ve had some consecutive dry and even sunny days which allowed for some time in the garden, doing a little cleanup and cutting back grasses. Those little green shoots and signs of new life never cease to bring me joy…

My raised garden beds have reached the end of their life and we will build new ones next month. Inspired by my friend M’s thriving small compost/worm bin, I’ve added my own in the form of a Subpod Mini. (I ordered my worms here.)

I have a new pair of glasses from RŌKA that I love…

This Jones Road Miracle Balm in bronze is adding a little life to my mid-winter complexion. Plus, it feels wonderful pressed into the skin…

And if your feet need a little TLC, this foot file and balm from Bare Hands is incredibly simple, elegant, and effective….

Most of my meals these days are hearty soups. Even for breakfast, it’s what I crave. This week it is Pamela Salzman’s kale and white bean minestrone. I also love this lentil, sausage, and chard one from Smitten Kitchen.

I just checked out Bittman Bread from the library and am enjoying playing with his technique this week…

Lastly, my sister-in-law turned me on to these super cool posters from Sandgrain Studio. My son has a Dune one in his room but I think a whole grid of them would look rad in the basement…

 

Pay Attention

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Happy New Year!

We closed out 2021 with two peaceful weeks at home. A proper winter storm blanketed Seattle with snow that stuck around for several days. We got to spend time with my brother and sister-in-law who live out of town and met my three-month-old niece E for the very first time.

My husband and I traded off walking with her in the Baby Bjorn. There’s nothing like that feeling of a tiny being asleep on your chest and it is one of the things I especially miss from when my son was a baby. It was the most enjoyable stretch of days I’ve had in a long time, just being together with nothing to do, nowhere to go, relishing in each other’s company.

One of my favorite January rituals is the purchase of a fresh, new paper planner. For years I’ve used the classic Moleskine daily planner but I changed it up this year and got the Appointed 2022 Year Task Planner

We have a new duvet cover from Rough Linen that I’d been wanting for two years. It was well worth the wait and it fits perfectly with our Wool Room comforter

Every January we send out a New Year’s card. I really enjoy the hand-addressing part so I often don’t have the envelopes pre-printed. However writing our return address over and over feels tedious. This year I ordered this custom return address embosser. Problem solved.

My husband and I aren’t drinking but he just celebrated a birthday and I wanted something to pop open to mark the occasion. I found this incredible non-alcoholic Copenhagen Sparkling Tea at my favorite neighborhood coffee shop, Sound & Fog. (They also have a fantastic selection of natural wines.) Grab a bottle if you ever see it, it really is remarkable…

The Metropolitan Opera has a wonderful podcast Aria Code and this week I revisited my favorite episode - Puccini's final opera, Turandot (season 3, episode 1). In each episode the guests explain what the aria is about (so it’s great if you’re like me and know nothing about opera) and then finishes with a live performance of the aria. This one features legendary Italian tenor Franco Corelli singing “Nessun Dorma” in a Metropolitan Opera performance from 1966. Crank it up…

And because it feels so good to watch someone who’s at the top of their game work at their craft, watch Jonas Kaufmann sing the same here…

Just before Thanksgiving, I checked out Jenny Odell’s excellent book How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy from the library. In fact, I still have it at home because I’ve renewed it three times.

The book is slim but vast in scope. There are so many important things she writes about, making connections to a number of ideas that might not seem related upon first glance.

“…the need to periodically step away is more obvious than ever…we absolutely require distance and time to be able to see the mechanisms we thoughtlessly submit to. More than that, as I’ve argued this far, we need distance and time to be functional enough to do or think anything meaningful at all…By spending too much time on social media and chained to the news cycle…you are marinating yourself in the conventional wisdom. In other people’s reality: for others, not for yourself. You are creating a cacophony in which it is impossible to hear your own voice, whether it’s yourself you’re thinking about or anything else.”

So often the conversation about how to avoid digital distraction or how to better manage our relationship with our devices and content/media consumption focuses on some tool or “hack” that helps us create boundaries - like instilling tech sabbaticals, keeping our devices on do not disturb, not sleeping with our phones on the bedside table. But Odell explores “the relationship between discipline, will, and attention” and how “if we’re to truly encounter anything outside of ourselves, we have to want it.” And we have to do the work of it.

“Civil disobedience in the attention economy means withdrawing attention…A real withdrawal of attention happens first and foremost in the mind. What is needed, then, is not a “once-and-for-all“ type of quitting but ongoing training: the ability not just to withdraw attention, but to invest it somewhere else, to enlarge and proliferate it, to improve its acuity. ..I am less interested in a mass exodus from Facebook and Twitter than I am in a mass movement of attention: what happens when people regain control over their attention and begin to direct it again, together.”

If I had no choice about the age in which I was to live, I nevertheless have a choice about the attitude I take and about the way and the extent of my participation in its living ongoing events. To choose the world is…an acceptance of a task and a vocation in the world, in history and in time. In my time, which is the present.
— Thomas Merton
 

Beautiful Gifts

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‘Tis the season for gift giving. For me that involves lots of homemade things - a favorite granola or an excellent box of cookies. For this year’s gift idea list I’m only including things I already own and love that also happen to make really great gifts…

This gray H&M linen tablecloth is a beautiful shade and of nice quality especially for the price…

This Lunya washable silk slip dress makes for one gorgeous nightgown (look at the back!)…

I bought myself the Oura sleep tracking ring early 2021 and it has had such a positive influence on my life. I’ve always prioritized sleep but the tracking has encouraged me to make small changes that have a big impact - being thoughtful about what and when I eat dinner, not drinking alcohol and embracing an earlier bedtime…

This gorgeous Ode Brew Grinder from Fellow is also fast and super quiet…

I love all of my Heath Ceramics but I think they look especially good mixed with other ceramics like these Hasami mugs

And these minimal pasta bowls from Convivial

My old Instant Pot kicked the bucket a few weeks ago and I replaced it with this new “pro” version. The much improved steam valve and the interior silicone handles are worth the upgrade alone…

For all the smaller people in my life I like to give books. A favorite is Big Ideas for Curious Minds from the brilliant people at The School of Life. It’s a wonderful one to read aloud with kids as the concepts apply equally to us adults…

This new Kids’ Encyclopedia is going to all of my nieces and nephews…

I’m giving The Illustrated Encyclopedia of Elements to my son…

Finding Muchness is really sweet…

This Strawberry Lemon-Ginger jam from Alchemist’s Jam in McMinnville, OR is my son’s very favorite. He’s giving a jar to all of his teachers this year…

The spices from Spicewalla are so good and the little tins are adorable. They make perfect hostess gifts and stocking stuffers…

Lastly, my lovely client T gave me these beautiful chocolates from Morito Chocolates in Brooklyn. Holy smokes they are so good that I’ve hidden them from my family and will not share. Not exactly the holiday spirit but they are that good. (Aaron if you are reading this, I love you and I apologize.)


 

Nandi Bushell

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I can’t believe I haven’t shared this before now, but last year I watched Nandi Bushell play this cover of Everlong by the Foo Fighters. Her talent is incredible but I’ve watched it so many times (my favorite part is at 3:38) just to witness the pure, absolute joy of her playing.

(Her drum battle challenge to Dave Grohl was accepted which you can watch on her channel.) But after you watch the above, watch her play live this last summer with the Foo Fighters at The Forum in LA. I had tears streaming down my face. #purejoy

 

November 7

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It has been a proper fall weekend, dark clouds and lots of rain. We all slept in this morning with the turning back of the clocks and I spent all day sorting, tidying, lighting candles, and doing a little baking. My soundtrack through it all was the Max Richter radio station on Spotify. It was a good day.

A few favorite things to share. I love my new Everlane camo jacket. I want to wear it every day…

Also from Everlane, these buttery soft chelsea boots are so good. They are incredibly comfortable and look super sharp…

I’ve also been wearing this COS hooded shearling vest under my camel coat similar to below…

I recently stocked up on these Banana Republic ribbed tanks which are perfect in cut, weight, and price. And now they’re an extra 40% off…

I made these flourless chocolate cookies for friends a few weeks ago. I received a text that night from the husband that it was “the most favorite cookie” he’s ever had. (They also happen to be the easiest cookie to make.) Just make sure you don’t overbake. I baked a single one as a test first and mine were perfect in 10 minutes.

I’m getting excited for Thanksgiving which we will celebrate again with our wonderful neighbors. I ordered a new linen tablecloth from H&M for the occasion. I bought gray but this pink beige one looks lovely…

I’ve been using these Food52 compostable sponge cloths everywhere I’d normally use paper towels. I have yet to wear through one and I toss them in the washing machine with my other dishtowels…

We were eagerly awaiting the new Dune film and it did not disappoint. The cinematography is stunning. If you’ve seen it and didn’t read the novel, this long rundown of the backstory is really helpful…

The mystery of life isn’t a problem to solve, but a reality to experience.
— Frank Herbert, Dune
 

September 26

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September is the month of Italian plums, my favorite. A friend gifted me over 10 lbs of them and I straight up devoured 5 lbs within two days. The rest I cut and froze for the coming months of fall and winter baking. There will likely be several Marian Burros plum tortes made but also a new favorite tart using the press in crust from my gluten-free baking bible Alternative Baker and the frangipane from Aran Goyoaga’s (my other gluten-free baking guru) book Cannelle et Vanille

Speaking of Aran, I am eagerly awaiting the arrival of her latest book next month, Cannelle et Vanille Bakes Simple: A New Way to Bake Gluten-Free

Last year I had zero desire to shop (which maybe was a common thread for a lot of us during that first year of pandemic life) but this fall I’ve been craving a few new additions to my wardrobe. I just bought these Dr. Marten 1460 mono boots

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And I keep looking at this beautiful Eddy coat from Sezane

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I love Derek Sivers and have been revisiting his important query: What if you didn’t need money or attention?

“We do so many things for the attention, to feel important or praised. But what if you had so much attention and so much praise that you couldn’t possibly want any more? What would you do then? What would you stop doing?

We do so many things for the money, whether we need it or not. But what if you had so much money that you couldn’t possibly want any more? What would you do then? What would you stop doing?”

Read the whole thing here.

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Ever the valuable resource, my friend Omar has a helpful post on living with covid-19 these days with links to masks and at-home testing options. We also like the Evolve Together masks for our whole family.

I will leave you with something incredibly fun to start your week, Dua Lipa and her band performing “Levitating” as part of npr’s Tiny Desk (Home) Concert series.

 

Begin Again

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Hello at long last.

My son started school last week. For the first time in 17 months he will be in school full-time, in the building and out of the house. Closures, quarantines, and remote school are still a possibility as we move along, but I am so grateful to have rediscovered some time and space for myself nonetheless. My brother has started taking long solo walks while his kids are in school. It feels like such a gift to care for ourselves as individuals once again.

We enjoyed a very low-key summer here at home. We bought a hammock.

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I turned 40 and hosted a small dinner party. It felt so wonderful to cook for friends after such a long hiatus…

As a birthday gift to myself I bought two of these beautiful Convivial minimal pasta bowls that fit right in with all of my Heath coupe dinnerware

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After a very dry summer (and a record heatwave) the temps have started to cool here in Seattle and it feels like fall, still my favorite season - a good time to regroup and begin again.

I’ve been reading a lot and am fully engrossed in Sally Rooney’s latest, Beautiful World, Where Are You. She is a master and I can’t put it down…

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I recently listened to Tim Ferriss’s conversation with neurobiologist Dr. Andrew Huberman. They talk at length about optimizing sleep, using our body to control the mind and reduce anxiety among other things. I learned so much and highly recommend it…

I also just revisited the endearing film The Lunch Box. It is a special one and you can rent it here.

Just as I sometimes still feel a bit awkward socializing and carrying on a conversation these days, I feel a bit out of practice writing here after so many months away. But it feels good to return to this space.

A parting quote I’ve been thinking about:

The habitual tendency when things get tough is that we protect ourselves, we get hard, we get rigid. But…that’s the time to soften and see how we might play or dance with the situation.
— Jeff Bridges
 

Worth Sharing

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Worth Sharing

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“It is not enough to hope that the next generation solves this. Things will not get better until we teach them how. It is on us to grow men who do not exploit the labor of women. Straight kids who understand and work toward protections for gay people. And White kids who understand that it is not about having a Black friend. It is about divesting completely from racist systems.”

- Cornelius Minor via swissmiss